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Broken Marriage

by Camisha Thierry
(Houston, Texas)

I believe God is a Restorer of All things. I believe that neither any thing nor any situation is too impossible for God to turn around. On the other hand can a heart be so torn in two that you get confused about whether or not you desire something that you truly desire? Well I mean that I truly love my husband and we have both made some terrible mistakes. He was a very active member in church and things eventually took a turn for the worst. We have been separated for two years and he said at one time that he wanted a divorce and now he doesn't. In the mean time he is still living with his mother, sleeping from pillar to post, etc, etc. I don't know what to do anymore. He told me that he wants to take it slow, get his credit straight, get a house and then we can get back together, and in the mean time I asked, does that mean we see other people, and he said yes. I know it was to justify his actions. My waiting for him to finish playing around makes me seem/feel desperate and less than. I am so torn. He is behaving so selfishly, this is so unfair to me and his children. I have not been able financially to get a divorce and I am uncertain of what I should do. HELP!!!!!

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CAMISHA
by: Anonymous

keep praying and fasting draw closer to god.. dont see other people becuase the bible sayd so long as you are married you have entered an oath with god..dont let your husband tell you that seeing other people is okay.. you do what is right by god not by man.. he is confused and thats what satan likes is to confuse things and to make things look good ..slefish it is but u stand in what you believe in and dont let your marraige be sinned up by you.. repent and show god he has the glory and honor..

my prayers
by: Anonymous

Seek God first, do not worry about your husband. Forgive him for you and let God take care of it. It may take a while. Move past your devastion and trust God to help you to move forward. Pray, pray and then pray some more. Look to God's word and then ask God what to do. Listen for it because God has a quiet voice but He will answer you. He has a plan for you, don't fight it and allow Him to take you where He wants you to go. I am in a similar situation and it is extremely difficult and painful. But, I read some very wise words "God can never do Himself right and do His children wrong. God's glory and goodness are inseparable."

confused
by: Anonymous

we have been married for seven years. i know without the lord in both our lives making this marriage work will be very difficult. he is staying with his parents 17 hours away from me. al though our marriage has been in troublle for a while now. i am began too feel that it want be saved. we have defiled the marriage a few years ago. we need help and healing from god.

My prayers
by: Anonymous

God sees all and don't get discouraged. He has a plan and you must be patient. I know how hard it is, I am going through something very similar and being patient is one of the hardest things I have ever had to do. Learning patience stretches our faith and in the end our rewards will be worth it.
God bless you and my prayers are certainly with you.

forever
by: Anonymous

I to have been in a dead marriage for years. Every day is a battle to stay.After reading the replys i feel i to must do what God wants me to do no matter how hard it gets.

Thank you all
by: Camisha Thierry

Thank you all so much! I especially love Bayanda's response! God Bless you all!

Restoration
by: Bayanda Fleming

For encouragement:
• God hates divorce - Malachi 2:15-16
• No weapon formed against you shall prosper - Isaiah 54:17
• The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. - 2 Cor. 10:4
• Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. - Ephesians 6:11
• For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places - Ephesians 6:12
• If God is for us, who can be against us? - Romans 8:31
• It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery. - Galatians 5:1

Praise God through all circumstances,good or bad. Acknowledge the Lord in everything and be humble. We can do all things through Christ whom strengthens us.We love you Lord.Dear God, I lift up broken marriages, failed relationships, separations, divorces, adulterous relationships, abuse, addiction, hatred, unforgiveness, anger, and selfishness, all to YOU, the Healer, Restorer and Rebuilder. You send Your Spirit to renew the face of the earth. We lift up our sins, our burdens, our worries to You, O Lord. We lift them up to heaven and lay them at the foot of the cross of Jesus Christ. Take our concerns into Your competent hands and as a potter with clay, transform them into something more beautiful than we could have ever imagined. Allow us to let go of control and let God enact His perfect plan in His perfect timing. Give us hope to endure and faith to believe in Your awesome power. Show us confirmations through signs, dreams and Your Word so that we may know You are present in our affliction and that You are the Light at the end of this tunnel through which we journey. Although the journey is long and dark, show us that we never walk alone.

There is always hope
by: Karen

Hi Camisha,

As you can see from the other responses, you are certainly not alone in your struggle. I get more requests for help for marriages than any other.

Since the other responses gave you a spiritual response, I will give you more of the practical side. There is no reason why you have to work through all of this on your own. Find a good Christian counselor who can help you sort it all out. Talk to your pastor or priest and see what advice they would give you.

Everybody's circumstances are different because every marriage is different. What works for one may not work for another, so I think sorting out your circumstances with a counselor who works with these kinds of issues every day could be life changing.

And since you asked for my opinion.....

I'm not sure about your husband's intent. He's saying one thing and doing another and that normally is not a good sign. Work with your counselor to come up with a plan for you and your kids to move forward, regardless of what your husband does or doesn't do. I don't think you can bank on his word right now.

Maybe he'll change, maybe he won't. But you can't put your life on hold and wait for him to mature and take responsibility for his life. You can certainly pray and have hope, but you must also keep your children and yourself in a position where you are moving on.

Perhaps if he sees your determination to build a life for yourself, he may become more motivated to do what it takes to straighten out his life. If he doesn't, then you definitely know where things stand.

Blessings,

Karen

Broken Marriage
by: Anonymous

Pray, Pray and Pray - for Him! The priest told me to pray for HIM - that his eyes and mind will be enlightened to begin to soften his heart.

I have been married for 25 years and separated for ten months and was about to just give up, and have just now started to see some softening in his heart. Mine does not want a divorce either, nor to sell the house, etc - these are men who want a foot in the door still because they know it is NOT OVER!!!.

Just keep praying and having faith - easier said than done, but fight for it - God would want us to. I have two teens who are also praying that their family can be restored.

I am praying for a miracle - at least to begin to start before Christmas Day.

I will pray for you and for all of us who are in this situation.

We must keep faith - God believes in families and in marriages and I do not believe our children should pay the price for our mistakes. I have told my kids to keep praying - God listens to innocent kids!

God Bless You!

My
by: Anonymous

You must hand your husband and marriage over to God and live your life in accordance to God's will and word. Tell your husband with love and not anger how you and God want your marriage to be and if he is not in accordance with it just let him go and let God take care of the rest. Have hope and remember to live your life with the attitude of Jesus. He didn't do what other people wanted him to do, he always did what was right.

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