Christian Marriage Advice

Getting Christian marriage advice from someone doesn't mean things will automatically be wonderful. In fact, building a great relationship doesn't happen in a day, or a week, or a month. It is a steady, progressive, one-issue-at-a-time proposition. And even with the best intentions, the process is still difficult at best.

I've read many books on this subject and have yet to find one that offers some kind of "magic bullet".

Unfortunately, Christian marriage advice doesn't come in the form of magic bullets. But there is hope. You truly can turn things around if you're willing to ask God for help, and then make the decision to fight for your spouse, your family, and your relationship, despite how things look right now.

First, that the focus is on problems that are real. It talks about power struggles and money and marital sex and other stuff that real couples face. He offers a different perspective than I've seen before.

I also like that this author is very straight forward. He doesn't sugar coat his words and use a lot of lingo that sounds good but really doesn't help anything.

One of the concepts from this book is about why traditional marriage therapy fails. Yeah, I know. FAILS. He talks about why traditional marriage therapy that puts the entire emphasis on communication between couples as the main reason marriages fail is misplaced. This author suggests that misperception about each other is the main problem, and faulty communications is secondary. The concept definitely makes you think about your relationship in a different way.

As you read his book, it is easy to see how this author's experience working with couples every day makes his Christian marriage counseling very relevant, real, and focused.

OK, so what wasn't so great in the book? Well, as in all books about marriage that are written by marriage counselors, it does contain some psychological background stuff that tends to make my eyes glaze over. That isn't to say it's not great stuff, it's just that I'm less interested in that sort of stuff than I am in the practical, "show me some real answers" stuff.

I'm sure all that psychological stuff lends credibility to the whole picture and it's written so that most people could get through it fairly easily. But when I'm reading, you'll find me in the sections where the rubber meets the road.