Christian Separation

by Rachel
(Missouri)

Hi Karen,

Thank you for your site and all of your helpful articles,etc. I want to ask you about Christian separation. My husband and I are both believers, we have been married two years. We have a 12 month old baby. Everything seemed to be going well in our marriage until right after the baby was born, my husband changed and started drinking, etc. When the baby was 4 months old my husband told me he did not love me anymore. Two weeks later I found out he was seeing another woman. We started to go to counseling, but he was never really remoresful for his actions. After two months of counseling, I found out my husband was seeing two other women during our counseling period. His spiritual condition was also deteriorating quickly. At this point, I was very hurt and became angry. Again, my husband showed no signs of remorse or desire to change. I stayed in our home for another 6 months during which time I found out about numerous other women. He never stopped preying on other women and it seemed to get worse and worse. At this time, I was very emotionally distraught and couldn't take it anymore and I decided to leave our home. I moved to another state where I am living with his family and looking for a job. My husband and I have not had any communication since I left. Over the last month God has worked in my heart and I have come to a place where I am able to say that I forgive him and I am able to pray for him. I am believing for our marriage to be reconciled and for him to be convicted of his ungodly ways. Many Christian people and leadership have told me that I made a big mistake leaving. I've searched the Scriptures and I have read all the commentaries- in my opinion it is not really clear cut and everyone seems to have a different view. Do you think there is any hope for my marriage and do you have any advice for me on separation? Is the Bible really clear on this subject? And please keep us in prayer- Joshua and Rachel.

Bless You!