Christian Teen Help ... You Really CAN Make a DifferencePeople looking for Christian teen help often times are looking for answers to a current crisis. For whatever reason, it is SO MUCH HARDER for teens today. And trying to instill Christian values....talk about swimming upstream. Young people are always looking for answers. They want to believe that their views are right, no matter what they are. So it becomes this huge challenge for us, as parents, to break through all the noise and have an impact on the thoughts and minds of our kids. One of the things we know for sure is that lecturing doesn't work. We all tried it, sometimes under the pretense of "having a conversation," but as soon as it was over we all knew it failed. Sometimes providing Christian teen help is simply finding a way to get through to them without everyone having a breakdown. I think today's Christian teens are faced with a whole lot more distractions then they used to be. It is way too easy to slip into the world's view of things.
Help Me Tear Down the Wall!So how do you get through? How can you make a difference without all the eye-rolling and impatient sighs? How do you stop your kids from becoming Christian troubled teens? First, please know that your teens really ARE watching to see how you live your life. What you say isn't nearly as important as what they see you do. If you're preaching to them about honesty about where they are and what they're doing, what does it tell them when they see you lying to your boss or someone else? Doesn't that make it look like you really don't mean what you say? Don't you look like a hypocrite in their eyes? I'm not trying to be harsh. I'm just letting you know that you might be setting your teen up to fail just by the way you're living your own life. Second, you aren't going to win power struggles. Consistency is your only hope of maintaining control. Both you and your spouse have to be on the same page. If your Christian teen thinks for one second they can divide and conquer, THEY WILL. Lastly, your teen HAS to hear more from you than yelling, criticizing, and correcting. There has to be more positive stuff coming out of you than negative stuff. Building up your teen's self esteem happens when you deliberately tell them the good stuff. I think teens today could use a daily dose of positive stuff about who they are, what they're accomplishing, and that they are capable of GREAT things. Can you imagine what our young people would look like if every adult would take the time to say positive stuff to them? What a concept... More Christian teen help ... how to build self esteem
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