Complaining is bad for health and relationships
by Bushra
(Pakistan)
Complaining is really bad. I am into this bad habit of complaining since a long time back. Today I am 33 years old and this complaining has become extremely worst. The complaining has started affecting my relationships and health. I complain about almost every thing, i.e. my husband, my sister, my environment, my country, my figure, my work place, my mother in law, my father in law.....almost every thing.
I am not happy from my life. I am not happy from any thing. Everybody seems disgusting to me. I don't know how to get rid of this habit of complaining. I want to take things very light but unfortunately I am not taking things easy. I am making life very difficult and miserable for me.
Whenever my husband insults me or tries to find faults in me, I don't tolerate and just start complaining him for his attitude. I complain about my husband a lot and this feeling has started affecting our relationship.
But I want to save my marriage that is leading to divorce. The cause is only that I don't tolerate if some thing from my husband hurts me. My heart is full of negative thoughts for my husband. Whenever I try to feel good about him, some negative thought comes and I am unable to think positive about him. He is rude, arrogant and aggressive. I don't want to leave him and I can't change him. I want to accept him the way he is.
Today I have gone through "How to stop complaining" section of this site and found it helpful. I hope I will gradually take over this habit of complaining with the help of God(Allah Almighty).
