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divorce and reconcilation

by Sheila
(Arkansas)

In March, I left my verbally and emotionally abusive husband. In July, the divorce he filed became final. But, now it's December, and we're talking better than we ever have. I'm actually thinking about him quite often and thinking we should try counseling and reconcile. HELP! What should I do? Why am I having these feelings about someone that hurt me so badly I left? Sheila

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I understand....
by: Sylvia

Your marriage can be saved and there is nothing wrong with considering reconcilation. In fact, God would love to bless your relationship and the years you have already invested with this man. However, it should be consistent ACTIONS on his part that demonstarte his committment to the health of your marriage (spiritual, physical, romantic, etc) and not nice conversations on his part.

My husband and I have been in a great relationship these last few months and I hope to consider reconcilitation like he wants. But GOD has laid it heavy on my heart that He gave me the strength to leave him because of the verbal and emotional abuse I sufferd for years. And I know that until my husband accepts God as his savior, goes to church and remains part of a christian counseling group consistently, I can't consider reconcilation. I know that only these things can keep him accountable and restrain him from going back to his old ways of lashing out at me.

I pray that you hear God's words as he leads you down the road where you can experience love and peace with Him, and also with a cherishing husband. You deserve nothing less than to be a respected and chersihed wife.

Be still, pray, and trust God.....
by: Anonymous

Satan hates what God loves, that's why the devil hates marriage! The D'Evil has unrelentingly attacked marriages from the very beginning of Creation, usually by driving a wedge between the man and the woman. The adversary will do all he can to destroy the marriage covenant, because the enemy knows that we can overcome & ultimately destroy all the works of the D'Evil with this thing called Love.

Ask God
by: Anonymous

Listen to God and take things slowly. Talk to your pastor and see a counseler. If God wants you to reconcile you will know. The only way it would work is if he is a changed man and only God can do that. Let God tell you what to do.

Marriage as a Covenant
by: Karen

Hi Sheila,

I see all kinds of red flags in your question. Even though marriage is truly a covenant between a man and woman, abuse is never acceptable under any circumstances.

God never intended you to live in an abusive marriage, and it is good that you are free from the situation.

Sheila, as much as I hate seeing marriages end, yours is a very complicated situation that may not be in your best interest.

You read about women in abusive situations who always go back to their abusers because the abuser knows how to manipulate the woman by saying and doing the right things until she is back under his thumb.

Sheila, I don't know your specific situation, but please consider seeing a Christian counselor on your own before you make any decisions about your ex-husband. Get another perspective from someone who can look at all your circumstances.

Blessings,

Karen

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