I cheated on my boyfriend and I ask God for forgiveness but should I tell him what I have done even though I have repented? We are also both trying to live the right way now for ourselves and for our two children by not being sexually active with each other until we are married.
I have been on the receiving side. Personally, if there was any chance that he could find out I think it would be best to come from you. Otherwise I would not want to know. That is just an opinion but know that I respect you for owning up to your mistake and wanting to do the right thing. God bless you.
Forgiveness in a Relationship by: Karen
Hi Ebony,
You most certainly are faced with a difficult choice. No matter what you decide to do, the consequences can be detrimental to your relationship.
I've heard two schools of thought in these kinds of situations.
One school says you should never tell the other person about your infidelity because it serves no useful purpose except to clear your conscience. The other person ends up taking the full brunt of the offense. Even though you feel better, the other person is completely destroyed.
The other school says you should always tell the other person about your infidelity. This group believes there should never be any secrets because they will tear the couple apart.
My personal feeling is somewhere in the middle of these two positions. I think there are so many details and complicated issues in every relationship that help determine what the right course of action is.
There had to be ongoing issues that created the circumstances when the infidelity occurred. There had to be unresolved problems that led up to the incident.
Ebony, my point is that I don't think there is a solid yes or no answer to your question. I believe you should consider talking to a Christian counselor who can evaluate all your circumstances and will be able to give you sound advice. And not just about the infidelity, but your entire relationship and how to move forward into what God has for you.
Blessings,
Karen
Forgiveness by: Anonymous
In my opinion, this question can only be answered by you, because you're the one who knows him best and want a relationship with him.
I think it's great that you've asked for forgiveness; for that clears the conscience and gives you a closer connection to God.
It's always good, in most cases, to be honest and forthright, especially with someone you love and care about.
So, search your heart and mind and ask God for help. He will listen and then will show you the way..
