God's Original Plan

by Thelma Trunk
(Vancouver, Washington)

Getting a better understanding of man.

Don't get frustrated with him, remember...
God gave him 5 drives....in Genesis 1:26-28

1. exercise dominion
2. subdue
3. multiply
4.dress or tend ....manager of the home, wife and children
5. guard and protect...mentally, spiritually, physically.

Look to him as your protector, provider, counselor, best friend, lover and leader. This is what God intended for us, as women. After God, man is to be all these things for us.

Woman was made to be a helpmate, not a leader of the home.

What should we do when the man has not developed these abilities, perhaps because of his background, and lack of training? We need to encourage and help him make decisions.

Now, if he is a wise man, he will counsel with his helpmate, and with much prayer together, make a decision.

Pray for him each day. He needs your encouragement, prayers, and praise to be able to be the man God wants him to be.

God made woman from Adam's side...not from his head, to brow beat her, and be domineering, or from the foot to suppress her. He made woman from Adam's side to be a helpmate and she is equal with Adam as heirs of salvation, and in God's sight, one flesh...and as Paul said...this is a mystery.

Don't try to change him into something you want him to be. A husband will feel more free to change when his wife stops trying to change him.

Don't nag...it takes time for old habits to be broken, and new ones to be formed. God can work better without the constant complaining and nagging of a wife. He will work better in his life with your prayers.

God has given woman insights into things and situations that man doesn't have. A woman is more emotional and caring, sometimes more perceptive and gentle in nature than man. This is the way God created woman, so they can complement each others attributes.

You have different personalities, temperaments, interests, tastes, abilities, and moods. It is these differences that add variety and color to your marriage. Learn to appreciate them.

God didn't make you to be a shadow of your mate, but designed you to be a counterpart. Help him to be all God wants him to be and then you are fulfilling your role as God intended.

Remember, we are talking about your role as a woman and wife.

In essence, your role is submission, and gaining a better understanding of what real submission is. If you don't like the word "submission", then think of it as "deferring to your husband".