How to Build Self Esteem from the Inside OutLearning how to build self esteem is a series of steps. First, it's all about shielding yourself from the negative "truthbearers" in your life. We all have them. They're the ones that love to rip, tear, and destroy, all in the name of "helping" you. The decision to stop believing all that stuff is critical if you want healthy self esteem. And of course, YOU have to stop doing the same thing to yourself and the people around you. Have you ever told your child, "this room is the messiest room on earth? You are a sloppy kid." When my kids were growing up, I said that to them so many times that it became a self fulfilling prophecy. They heard that over and over and pretty soon they were the sloppiest kids I ever saw. EXACTLY WHAT I DIDN'T WANT. Be careful what you say to people. Make sure you're telling them what you want, not what you DON'T want! The process works exactly the same way when you say stuff to yourself. The experts call it self talk. It's that ongoing conversation you have with yourself. It happens all day, every day. Sometimes you are your own worst critic, and it takes a far worse toll on you than what you hear from other people. The only way you'll really know how your self esteem looks is to test it. I decided to take this The bible says in Proverbs 23:7, As a mans thinks in his heart, so is he. And then it says we can choose either death or life in the power of the tongue. Hmmmm...See the connection in how to build self esteem? Could our thoughts and words really be this powerful? Everybody has a picture of themselves in their mind. And that picture came from all the stuff you've accepted as "truth" in the past. You're made so that whatever picture you hold, whether positive or negative, is the controlling factor of your life. And how to build self esteem for you personally, is based on your version of that picture.
So what happens when you try to change it? Even if you "try hard", why does it seems so easy to go back to your old ways? It's because it's natural for you to go back to whatever picture you hold. So if you don't change the picture on the inside FIRST, the change won't last. It's sort of like the automatic pilot on a boat. When you set the boat on automatic pilot, the course is determined and the boat goes along smoothly without effort. But, if for some reason, you want to make the boat go a different direction, you could grab the steering wheel and turn the boat. As long as you keep your hands on the wheel the boat will temporarily go where you're steering. But what happens when you let go of the wheel? The boat automatically goes back to its original course. So I guess that means you have to change your "automatic pilot"? Inside Out...Learning how to build self esteem happens when you decide to deliberately program the right stuff into your mind. Because you move toward what you think about, it's REALLY important to think and say the right stuff. Affirmations reset your automatic pilot. They're positive "life-giving" statements that you're going to tell yourself every morning and every night that will create a new picture of you. Every time you program in the right stuff, it's replacing the wrong stuff that already exists. These statements need to be positive, present tense, as though your goal was already done. You simply read the words and then, most importantly, you visualize the end result and feel how great it makes you feel. The entire process should take about 15 seconds. Not a bad investment of time while you're learning how to build self esteem.   New! CommentsHave your say about what you just read! Leave me a comment in the box below. |
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