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I pray that God would restore my broken marriage

My husband Jason left me 6 months ago,after only a being married for one year and three months. He is living with the other women and we are in the process of a divorce. He has never apologized for the things he has done. I still love him and it has been so difficult to let go and move on. I pray everyday that God would let me know what i should do. It is difficult because I know God does not agree with divorce, I did not get married with the thought of divorce as a way out when things got tough. Jason also told me he felt this way about marriage however at the first sign of trouble this is exactly what he did. If it is possible to restore a broken marriage after an affair it I am willing to let God lead me in the direction he wants for me.

Thank you and blessings,
Joyce
heartbroken in NY

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I pray that God would restore my broken marriage

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Feb 16, 2010
 Forgive
by: Steve

To start with, I applaud you for wanting to work your marriage out. This is definitely God's plan for marriage. But one thing I notice in your post is you are expecting him to say sorry. You may or may not hear this. It is not about him saying sorry. It is about you forgiving regardless. I and my wife have been separated for a year now. I have done a lot of studying and praying. I felt the same way you do, but God told me to forgive. He kept telling me to work on me, let Him handle her. I forgave her, I thought, the moment she walked out. I really had to learn to let it go. Just stuffing it back is not forgiveness. To truly forgive, get honest in your heart. Say to God that you no longer want to regard this in your heart, and that you forgive them. It will work if you are serious. You have to then consciously work at not letting Satan remind you of it. After a while when he figures out he can't get to you that way anymore, he will leave you alone there. Just trust me, it is not going to be easy. But, the rewards of forgiveness for you is so much greater. I am more free not worrying about whether or not she will say I am sorry. It more for your sanity not his. Remember also, you can't force him to love you, but you can make him love you. It is in loving him like Christ loves you. Unconditional love is hard to ignore, and always reciprocates love. Think about why we love God. We don't love Him because He says "I love you". We love Him because of His shown love (unconditional shown love). This love says, I don't care how you feel about me, how you treat me, or what you say about me I will love you. This is the love we are commanded to have. Not just as husband and wife, but as Christians in general. I have learned to love my wife in this way. If I had learned 10 years ago we would not be separated now. I know it is all for our good, but sometimes our stupidity or stubbornness is a major factor. God will restore, but do not focus on His restoring your marriage. Instead focus on making yourself the best spouse and Christian you can be. Trust God and He will not disappoint.
Jan 27, 2010
 RE: Never Give Up!!!
by: Gaby

Anusha,
You are a role model. I have only been married 5 years, going on 6 in May. I separated from my husband two and half years ago, for only 3 months. I had faith, that we would be back together again, but the actual didn't seem like it. This is when I grew spiritual and believed in God. I don't know if this will help, but I read a book written by Erin Thiele called "How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage".

I will keep you in my prayers.

God Bless You!
Jan 27, 2010
 Never Give Up!!!
by: Anusha

I have been married for 23 years, My husband decided he wants a divorce a year ago. we live in the same house but he sleeps in the lounge. he has cut himself off me completely. its almost like he is hypnotised.
I love God with all my heart, i love my husband too. he cannot have any children and he is not working. his family has had a negative impact on his life and i am left with the issues.
I am trusing God for a miracle in my husbands life. He lost his faith in God, comes from a christian family. abused environment. i am working and supporting my husband who refuses to pay for anything.
My husband has a family history of depression and anxiety and fear. i have been praying for God to heal him emotionally. he cannot handle anything he runs when there is a problem or ignores it hoping it will go away.
I know he will be alone with no home, he was a good man until this thing triggered in him. God hates divorce, i cannot force him to live with me if he wants to go. i can support myself financially and i have a very strong support structure, but i am worried about him. the last time he left home 6 years ago, he filed for divorce cancelled it and came back home.
now with similar family issues it triggered off again. i cannot work, sleep, eat, do anything except pray and fast for God to do something miraculous. i know i can save my marriage how do i change his mind, or make him see that divorce is not the solution. we have a beautiful home, i have a business i started. i am the stable one in the family now, he has become like a child. very sensitive about everything, very petty and does foolish things. what can i do?
Jan 25, 2010
 God's Will
by: Anonymous

Stay focus and know that It's God's will for marriage to work. Amos 9v11 God will restore!!!!Have fith, faith is the key to what ever youy want god to do he will.Get you some faith scriptual and read to build up your faith in god. The bible say if you delight yourself in God he will give you the desire of your heart. To know that God want you to have the best REMEMBER you were chosen
Dec 22, 2009
 Believe In The Best - Keep Your Chin Up
by: Anonymous

I totally feel your pain. We strive to be as God's children in his eyes. I am not a perfect wife by no means, but I try to be. I have my faults like many others. My husband of 22 years has asked me for a divorce. He has fallen out of love for me and he says he is dead inside. He already has his ads up on the dating sites. I asked him if he would wait until after our divorce. He said that he could not. That he was too old and that time should not be wasted. He wanted to find someone to complete the final chapter in his life. I pray a lot and I often think that God has forsaken me. But deep down we know that the dark side is letting us down. We need to strive to be as our father wants us to be. Good and believing in him. I pray diligently that God would restore your marriage and that it would be filled with the Holy Spirit. In my case only the miracle of God can change it. I too pray to God and cry my self to sleep every night to please let the Holy Spirit take a hold of my husband and bring him back whole to me. Everything is in God's hands now.

God Bless!

Wife In Tears
Dec 15, 2009
 God Restores
by: Thiru

Dear Joyce,
I was having a tough marriage and wanted to quit. Even though I had a Christian marriage and followed many seminars on marriage, I did not know how to overcome the problems in our marriage. My marriage was an arranged one. One day God just spoke "Son, start honouring the marriage covenant that you made before me, I will restore your marriage." I eventually made this simple prayer, "Lord, I will not quit this marriage and no divorce." As I honoured the marriage covenant that I made before our Lord on our wedding day, God restored our marriage. I and my wife are good friends now and I want to thank Jesus for his restoration power.
Nov 17, 2009
 Marriage
by: Anonymous

I seperated from my husband 3 months. I am happily reunited. I read "How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage" by Erin. Please read it. It helped me to grow spiritually. Praise the Lord!
Oct 30, 2009
 TRUST IN GOD
by: Anonymous

I know how you feel. My husband left in January 2009. Since then my faith has grown. I pray day and night. Only the advise I can give you is to be patient and be strong; wait for the next move God will order. Remember that Lord ALWAYS HAS THE LAST WORD. He created us, thus we must obey and trust because he said he loves us.

Good luck everyone who is waiting for their marriage restoration.
Oct 20, 2009
 My marriage is about fall apart
by: Anonymous

Been married now for almost 4 years, my husband has been abusive both verbally and physically, the last conflict we had or maybe not conflict because i didnt argue with him, he made a threat and i left, he left as well, i dont know where he is.
I have been through many sicknesses but this is much worst than anything i have ever been through, he is not taking any responsibility for his behavor, instead he blames me for everything, everything that two persons should stick together and deal with is my fault.
Right now i am not praying for God to keep the marriage together, because that would depend of a change in his life; i think he is under some demonic opression. what i want right now is for the perfect will of God to be fulfilled in my life.
How do i cope with all this? trust me, God only knows, sometimes i feel like God doesnt like me or something, i feel like i have been thrown from a plane with no aid, i feel my self falling but i"know" that his grace is sufficient to keep me and here i am, still broken, still hurt still not sure what steps to take, but trusting God. i am still in my right mind and i am still saved, thank God.
I have learned that life is not so much about how you feel but especially in these times its what you know.
Sep 18, 2009
 wow this hurts
by: Anonymous

My husband walked out on me, and moved in with the OW in 2006. It's now 2009 and I am still standing for my marriage. My husband is the only man I have ever been with still to this day. It is soooooo black right but my eye's are on my God. We have not been communicating and I have not seen in five months. My heart is bleeding right now, but I go to the rock of my salvation and I look the hells. I know my God is able. I can't see my way right now and I have found out to just stand when I don't know what to do. I ask you all to pray my strength in the Lord.
Sep 01, 2009
 Prayers for a Broken Marriage
by: SPR

My husband left me on July 21, 2009 without any warning...however God is dealing with me because before he left I actually told him that I wish I never married him. Why I said I have no idea but he left me and he has cut off all communication with me. He is reading my emails but not responding to any of them. My husband is new in Christ and is very interested in having a relationship with God. It's amazing how the devil just came right in and started interferring in our marriage. I am praying that God heals my husbands mind. He is a good and caring man but a very sensitive man. I was told that I hurt him by my words and I am asking God to help me change. No one on this earth deserves to be spoken to in a unpleasant manner...God speaks about the power of the tongue..I have repented and ask God for forgiveness...my husband has never yelled at me and I see that the devil use me to get to my husband. I am tired of my behavior and I want to show my husband that I am changing through the grace of God. I want to be his wife and even though he has not asked for a divorce I am not sure what is going on because he is not communicating at all. Please God help us both in this time of need...we both have been married before and this relationship means so much to me...Please help us to understand what love really is.
Jul 23, 2009
 Waiting to hear from God
by: Anonymous

I too am going throug a simular situation, my husbad and I have ben together for 2 years but married for 4 months, since we've been married he has been cheating, liying and neglecting the home, one minutes he is making plans for our future the next minute I don't see he vision and where he is going, he has a problem with alcohol and when he is drinking it's like he's another person, it's like there is the spirit of imagination with him, he talks about situations that are not really an issue, He was the one that was really pushing the issue to get married and now he can't make up his mind what he want to do, I love him, I meant my vowls but it is very difficult for me, I don't beleive in divorce and I do understand that the enemy hates marriage and will use any avenue to destroy it but I don't believe that marriage should be this way, I feel like we are divided and that I am the only on fighting spiriutally I an exhausted and don't know what to do.
Jun 16, 2009
 God can heal marriages
by: Anonymous

We are the body of Christ. Matthew 6:10 Thy kingdom come thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Stay encourage, because according to God words (The Holy Bible)
You know that devil come to kill, steal and destroy marriages. Your marriages that are ordain by God can be restore. No matter what. I suggest that you Google in Rejoice marriage ministry, because the Holy Spirit had anointing this restored married couple to minister to individuals who need support in standing for their marriages. . Seek the Lord and see if this comment is for you. Sister in Christ who is also standing for my marriage.At this time the Holy Spirit has allowed me to be connected to rejoices marriage ministry and I have be blessed. I am watch God bring my marriage back to together for his Glory. According to his word, it is his will that marriage can be restore. Stay in the word of God and stay in faith in Jesus name.
Feb 17, 2009
 With God ALL things are possible!
by: Pastor Timmy Gibson

I am so sorry for those of you who are facing difficult situations in your marriage! There are no easy answers and sometimes life is complicated!


I pray God's grace and mercy rest of you! And I pray that God would mend your broken heart!
Jan 23, 2009
 14 months married...now spouse is gone
by: Anonymous

I am so saddened that my charming, lovable adoring husband decided he needed a 2 week break from me, and said he was tired of this ife and we should just go our separate ays. What was he tired of? my bringing his drinking to his attention...he had just been spotted drinking with a female at lunch time and I was devastated. He apologized but then had lunch w/ her a week later. That's whe he left, 15 hrs awy to be w/ his alcoholic family. Basolutley no one has called me , not his mom or sister...I am alone in my house ad nobody there cares. He is coming back in 1 week (3 weks after he left) to retrieve his belongings and never to be seen again. He will hae to establish residency b4 he can file divorce and I pray that god heals his cold heart soon so that he will come back and stay for good. I told him I wil never takeoff my ring, b/c in my eyes I will always be married to him spiritually. He is not at all spiritual, ahs told me to stop emailing him scritpture he does not want any help EVER! I am so afraid for him
Jan 20, 2009
 My prayers
by: Anonymous

Gerry,
For this reason I kneel before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and on earth derives its name. I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord's people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge - that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God. Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen
Ephesians 3: 14-21

I will say this prayer for you and know that when God closes one door he opens another. God is here - eternally and faithfully, with infinite patience and love - and, if we reach out to Him, He will restore perspective and peace to our souls.
Jan 20, 2009
 Really hurt
by: Anonymous

My wife left me February 10, 2008. I got the divorce papers on 12 January 2009. Please pray for me. God bless you very much, Gerry.
Jan 17, 2009
 I am praying for all standers
by: Anonymous

I believe that through God all things are possible. You haveto have the strength to lay it at his feet and let God heal. It seems easy but it is not ...unless you completely rely on God . You being the child and letting God guide you. sometimes we try to manipulate our circumstances , which makes the process that much harder and longer for we interfere with God's divine plan. Pray for strength, pray for your spouse and believe that God is taking care of it.
Jan 15, 2009
 NEVER GIVE UP
by: Anonymous

I am in the same circumstance you find yourself in. Ultimately, we are in spiritual warfare and if you don't stand for your belove's salvation, who will? I am recently divorced, and still stand for my husband's salvation and a restored marriage. I can confidently say that many breakthoughs have occurred leading in to that end. My husband went from saying he will never come back to now confessing he knows he is coming back and has all the love he had and more, the other woman is not what he thought he wanted; he is going to church and is praying. He has turned around 180 degrees and I believe my 360 is just around the corner! There is no problem too big for God to handle. The battle is already won if you would just believe in your Lord and commit your life to his will, everything else will follow. Give your marriage to the Lord and allow Him to be your husband in this season working on both of your hearts. At God's appointed time, he WILL restore your marriage and you will have more than you thought was possible. God can do ALL things!!
Jan 08, 2009
 alternatives
by: Wanda

If you have an internet go to Tony Evans alternatives and listen to jan .&th message there are lots of things we don't know about our Christian marriages but now is the time to be encouraged, The wors says my people parreish for lack of knowledge and a lot of us are in error with God concerning divorce this are very good teaching and can enlighten you on some areas we need to be more caugtioned of. God Hates Divorce did you know that it is a spritual covenant and really God is the only one that can put it assunder.
Jan 03, 2009
 God can and God will
by: Anonymous

I understand what you're goings through. I'm currently dealing with a similar situation only difference is my husband has apologized to me for his actions and we're still together. It's one of the most difficult things that I ever had to deal with. Whenever he goes through the door I have it in the back of my head that he's cheating. Sometimes in life we're faced with the most difficult challenges that's not possible for us to solve by ourselves. You know you can alway turn to God for comfort and direction, let your total depency be in him. If it's in his will that you and your husband should be together, no situation or no one can change that, not even your husband. I will ask God to comfort and help you to make the right decision which you will. I pray he will give you peace in your spirit, keep you in your right mind, surround you with his care, his love, may his grace shine upon you and bring you onto a complete victory in Jesus name. let go and let God.
Dec 27, 2008
 My prayers
by: Anonymous

Trust in God with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding, Proverbs 3:5. God has a plan we must be patient and wait. Patience stretches our faith and the rewards in the end are worth whatever suffering we are going through right now.
Dec 26, 2008
 I will pray for you
by: Anonymous

Joyce I know how you feel. I have been married for 16 months and my husband told me that he is not in love with me and he wants a divorce. I know that he is involved with another woman. He still lives with me but we live like we are just friends and this hurts me. This is my second marriage and I don't want another divorce.

I will pray for you that God will restore your marriage and break down every strong hold that satan has put up in your marriage. And yes it is possible for God to restore a marriage after an affiar has occured. Remember with God all things are possible. I will pray for you as I have been praying for myself that our marriages will be restored and that God will changed the hearts, minds, and attitudes of our husbands towards us and our marriages. God did not ordain those relationships with the other women He ordained our marriages.
Dec 22, 2008
 Encouragement............
by: Bayanda Fleming

I pray that God blesses and restores your marriage.
I am dealing with the same thing. God can change any situation. Trust him pray about it and believe what you are praying for. God honors marriage and he hates divorce. Pray for me as I am praying for you. Be encouraged.
For encouragement:
• God hates divorce - Malachi 2:15-16
• No weapon formed against you shall prosper - Isaiah 54:17
• The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. - 2 Cor. 10:4
• Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. - Ephesians 6:11
• For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places - Ephesians 6:12
• If God is for us, who can be against us? - Romans 8:31
• It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery. - Galatians 5:1
Dec 22, 2008
 My prayers
by: Anonymous

You are not alone, I am going through the same exact situation. I too have struggled on whether to give up or keep faith for my marriage to be restored. I know that giving up would be the easy way out and would be giving in to the sin and evil that is trying to destroy my marriage. I handed my husband and marriage over to God, knowing that the only way for things to be restored correctly it will only be through Him. I will pray and have hope and faith everyday until the divorce papers are signed. Then if we are divorced I will know God's will for us. I will still pray for his salvation but I will move on. Keeping faith with patience is what being a true Christian is all about. Doing the right thing is sometimes the hardest and most painful thing you can do, but the blessings and the rewards you receive from God makes them all worth while. Everyday will be a struggle but you must "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;" Proverbs 3:5 God has a plan and a purpose for all of us and we must listen to his quiet voice of guidance "For with God nothing shall be impossible." Luke 1:37
Dec 22, 2008
 I pray that God would restore my broken marriage...
by: Anonymous

I will pray that your marriage is restored; that your husband comes back to you but realize that this may not happen and it may be for the best, that it doesn't.

Many agree that it is good to remain in a marriage, even if there are troubles because if one of the partners is Christian and the other is not, the Christian partner may be able to bring the other over towards Christianity.

But if a man or woman refuses to go back to one's spouse, then it is often best to move on. Once a person has set his or her mind on divorce or separation, it is often hard to change it. Only God can do that.

I will pray that your marriage is restored to goodness but do what you can to keep going on with your life and be happy...And remember, God will show you the way.

Blessings,

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