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I Would like to have children.

by Ann-Maire
(Jackson, Michigan USA)

I'm 31yrs old and I was born with Arthrogryposis, I'm the only one I know of that can walk but was told I wouldn't be able to have children since I was 18yrs old. I'm terrified to have...um...have sex and I don't think I can because I believe if your not married then I'll will be condemed to hell...so I've been praying for children of my own even though I'm not married but I have a boyfriend who loves me and wants children too.
He understands me and my condition. I'm 31 and ready to start a family but afriad to in any way to disappoint the Lord Almighty God, and so I've been praying even though I'm a Virgin for children but I don't care how many as long as it's from me at least just this once so be it. Me I want many children but I'm thankful if god gives me one or few or whatever how many he wish to give me I'll be happy for the rest of my life with ever how many he allows me to have. I believe Gods the only one who tell ya if you can or can not have children, not your doctors or your family or anyone else. I pray night and day every now and then in between to God if I can even just this once if I can have children. I'm disabled and I believe I can unless God says so other wise. This site is helpful, and I hope to visit offten to help me with my Depression because I've been depressed about things people tell me like I can never have children or live on my own and hurtful things said to me.

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Follow God wherever it leads
by: Karen

Hi Ann-Marie,

There are no easy answers for your situation. Your medical issues are apparently cause for concern by your doctors. Telling you not to listen to your doctors wouldn't be prudent for me or anyone. I'm sure they know about your condition and are giving you the best advice they know to give under the circumstances.

Does God do miracles? Of course. Will He do a miracle for you? Nobody knows. Can you believe that God can do a miracle for you? Of course. There is never anything wrong with believing for a miracle.

But when it becomes an obsession, that's when you have to step back and see that God has His own idea about what's right in your life, not to mention His own timing. He may have something else in mind for your life. He may want to use you for a completely different purpose than to have children.

The only way you're ever going to find out is to focus on God's face rather than His hand. That simply means that becoming satisfied with God for who He is has to become your goal, rather than insisting on your own desire.

Is it easy? No. Is is worth it? Absolutely yes. You never know the great things God has for you until you learn to trust Him completely.

So many times people get ahead of God and His plan. They try to make things happen that were never meant to be.

This morning I was reading about Abraham and Sarah and their rush to fulfill God's promise. They got ahead of God and it didn't turn out so good.

Here are the comments from the publisher of the Bible version I'm currently reading. It's called the "Family foundations Study Bible."

"We may not be able to relate to the customs of Sarai's day. After years of barrenness and frustration with the Lord, she offered her maidservant to her husband, Abram, to insure a family heir.

Christians living in today's instant-gratification culture, however, can certainly relate to her impatience toward God. Just as Sarai and Abram did, taking matters out of God's hands and into our own is something even the most righteous people are quite adept at doing. Waiting on the Lord may be difficult, but acting impulsively can lead to disappointment.

When we take matters into our own hands, we rob God of the opportunity to shower us with His grace and delight, and we rob ourselves of the opportunity to experience God's blessing.

If you're waiting on the Lord for something right now, keep praying and keep waiting."

Ann-Marie, the absolute best thing you can do is focus on being a blessing to others. Spend some time helping out in a daycare or with families who need a hand with their children. Plant seeds of right behavior in your own life so God can bring a harvest.

Blessings,

Karen

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