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In need of help with my financial obligation to my marriage

by msL
(ILLINOIS)

Good Evening Karen, Well ive been married for almost two years and IM trying whatever it take to make my marriage work. Before me and my husband got married he told me what he wanted from his wife. He wanted a wife who could handle finances. Well i believed in my heart that i could do that especially because i was paying my own bills before we met. Well i also shared with him that i had credit issues as well, not knowing the severity of the credit issues. Well of course with my credit worthiness which is not good, my husband said he would be responsible for the finances. Well this is really stressing him out(especially because he didnt want to deal with this in the first place). He always bring back to my remembrance that he wanted someone who could handle finances and that i told him a story. I didnt tell him a story i just dont think we went into detail about our financial situations.He always tell me that im resistant to what he says, not that im trying to be like that, i think its all in the presentation of what he says to me. Do you have any resolution for this fault that i started in my marriage? Im ready and willing to receive help!~~~

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Learn and Move On
by: Karen

Hi MSL,

It's always tough when the expectations that we have before we get married don't come to pass after we're married. There's disappointment and confusion. It can definitely cause problems.

However, I see your problem as completely solvable. Get some training in budgeting and handling your finances. There are lots of programs out there, many of them offered by local colleges or credit counseling places that will teach you how to manage your finances.

Go online and look up free credit counseling or free courses in money management in your city. Or talk to your bank and ask them if they know of a free class on managing your finances. They might even offer one.

You and your husband may even want to take the course together so you are both on the same page. But before you take the course, it's important that you both agree that once you complete the course, that the failure in expectations is a closed issue and won't be brought up again. Make clear that this is your attempt to resolve the issue once and for all.

Blessings,

Karen

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