Mother in law and husband trouble

I have been with my husband since I was 17 years old.

We are now 34 "& 35. We have 3 children together and

for the most part we get along fine. The problem is

with his Mom. She is always making hurtful, smart---

comments that undermine or belittle me. She also says

things to hurt me that you can't prove she is doing

it. It's very manipulating. She makes it appear that I

am just over sensitive. For example. My husband and I

went to a ballgame the other night as a family and I

thought we all had a good time. Granted he couldnt

watch the game as well with all of us there, but, it

was a family thing, you know? Anyway, She (MIL) calls

me and says well, Justin said he would never take you

to a ballgame again, that your daughter was horrible

with you there. He will make it just a Daddy and

daughter thing. She laughed in her very loud and

annoying way. I asked my husband about this and he

said there was conversation about this, but she is the

one who said it would just be a daddy daughter thing,

he just said Tess was better when it was just the 2 of

them. She added all the rest just to annoy me. It

bothers me because I am a stay at home mom who doesnt

get to get out much, and so I enjoy going. She know

this. This is very minor. She has done alot worse, it

would take me all day to tell you everything. One of

the worst is the way she is with my daughter. She came

and bought her a whole new wardrobe and didnt get my

baby anything. She also didnt get my 16 year old

anything. My daughter who is 2 said I don't like you

Mommy when she was here, and she had never said that

to me before. My question is how do

I handle this?> My husband insists that I just

appease her when she is around. He said we don't have

to be around her much, so just tolerate her and go

on. We don't now have to be around her a whole lot,

but I still feel he should take up for me. He says he

knows how she is, but just doesnt want to confront her

because it is all or nothing with her. She would

never see the error in her ways. Should I just

continue to tolerate her or should I speak up?

Another question is there is talk about us moving to

Florida where she is living, an dI honestly cannot

stand the thought of living near her. she is sooooo

critical and negative and hurtful. My husband has

always wanted to live in Florida however, so I hate to

rob him of that. I don't think our marriage would

last if we live too close to her. How do I handle? I

have spoken with husband repeatedly, but he will not

stand up to her. That is not an option. Me standing up

may cause problems with my husband, and I really feel

kind of bad arguing with my childrens grandmother even

though she is the way she is..?..? HELP!!!!!