I'am also married to a alcohlic and I don't understand why people feel the need to drink morning noon and night but I do know this I have lived through hell the last 2 years with verbal abuse and just 2 weeks ago he became phyiscal I have now told him he has to go and let him know exactyly how I feel about him and his addition and that he needs to get help and it is something he needs to do by himself for himself and I will be there for him if he needs me but he can not live with me anymore because I care to much about myself to let him treat me this way .. No matter how much it hurts or how much I love him I refuse to let this happen to me anymore and that is the way you need to think about it . You have to put yourself above everyone else and care for yourself before you care about them and you will see or find your own answer and what you need to do . Me I can't wait for him to leave and I hope that he finds himself and starts to care about himself because until he does that he can not care for anyone else..
This is my opionion ... Stand Strong and Love Yourself . and hope that your husband follows the right path.
Pick urself up by: Anonymous
I too know alcholism and its long term affects on the other peoplein the family. I didnt beleive it myself- my father was an alcoholic and I had dated many men that had substance abuse. when I met my husband he barely drank, well now he drinks alot- which he basically blames me and the stress i cause him . The best thing i ever did was use the tools i learned as a kid from alanon and reinstate them. We really need to know that we become sick too with this disease. It makes us less of a person, can make you sick. Pick yourself up, make yourself feel pretty, go to counseling, get out and enjoy your life. Even if you have to pretend to be enjoying yourself - get out and do things for you.
You cant fix them or change them. You will do fine- my prayers are with you.
what happened next? by: K
I know what you're going through. Addictions and their repercussions always escalate.
Did you press charges? Or get an interim order of support?
What happened?
RE AN ALCOHOLIC HUSBAND by: Anonymous
I went through that too about 4 years ago. Today I am still with my alcoholic husband, but he is not home. He is our running around. I started a long road of counselling and went to Alanon. I am starting to take care of myself. Please remember that you can not take care of anyone but yourself. You are not responsible for his actions. God Bless you.
