my husbend and i cant seem to see eye to eye on our responsiblities

My husbend and I are very much inlove. Lately he has became very grouchie. He blows his top fast over little things. This is not the man I merried.he said it because I don't hear what he is saying. I have a lot of things I could improve on and I have made some changes to the things I can do. I have ask him to be more invalved with the financies,kids and hosehold chores. These are all things he complanes about.he has yet to jump in. But still continues to complane I just want him to see how blessed we are. We have 4 beutiful kids and for the most part a good marriage.help me be able to talk to him more receptivly. I also would love to find a positive way to get him more invalved with the things that keep the house running.thanks sad but optamistice in IN.