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Obey your husbans no matter what hea sks?

by Jean
(kentucky)

I am a christian and my husband is not but he uses scripture to tell me that i'm to submit and obey no matter what he asks.He asks me to do sick imorall things involving other people.also things that hurt me or make me cry doesn't phase him. He reminds me the woman was made for the man not the manfor woman.The bible does say women are to obey in everything

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He is Sick
by: Anonymous

Dear Jean,

I think your husband is really a sick man, who is using his wife immorally for his personal benefits.

My advice, since it seems your husband does not loves you (love seems to be far away, lust could be the right word)and is only using you, you need to see if you can support your living and if yes then come out of this relationship ASAP. Christian Counselling may help you but since your husband is a non-Christian I believe he does not have faith in Christianity and won't listen to anyone and if he does, he might put you in deeper trouble later.

I am not trying to be negative but facts say it all.

Take Care.

Should Women Submit in all things?
by: Karen

Hi Jean,

It always amazes me when non-Christians take one scripture, take it out of context, and try to inflict their own misguided ways on Christians. There is a real danger to Christians when they don't know and understand God's Word and what it is really about.

The Word does talk about the relationship between men and women. However, when you look at the entire passage, there is much more to the message.

In its entirety, the Word is talking about how a man must love his wife as Christ loves the church. In other words, as much as Christ loves us. It says Christ gave Himself up for her. So a husband must give up himself for his wife.

Yes, it does say that a wife is to submit to her husband. But not if the husband is abusive, manipulative, controlling, and wants the wife to do things that violate God's principles. Based on your question, I don't see your husband willing to "give himself up" for you.

God never said wives are to be doormats for their husbands. He never said they are to follow along blindly when they know what they're doing is wrong.

Working side by side along side your husband is God's will. Following your husband when he is the spiritual leader in your home is God's will. When a husband seeks God with all his heart and tries to do what's right, yes. Absolutely. It is the wife's responsibility in Christ to follow that lead.

So Jean, my direct answer to you is no. You are not obligated to follow your husband down a path that violates your Christian beliefs.

In fact, I strongly recommend you find a good Christian marriage counselor who can help you sort out some of the issues in your marriage that are tearing at your self esteem.

Blessings,

Karen

Blind Obedience
by: Anonymous

Honey, the Bible says a wife is to honour her husband. No Christian is EVER to do anything that is directly against God's laws. Immorality and sin - any sin - is something God HATES. Read about all the men and women in the Bible who obeyed God, even when it meant disobeying their wives, husbands, rulers, kings etc. Your husband does this to control you, not because he knows the Bible.

My husband used to do the same. I've been there. He used to despise me. Now he respects me for standing up to his abuse and refusing to do anything that is a sin, merely because he says I 'must'.

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