Pregnant and Husband has Detached from Me

by Andi
(Michigan)

Hi there -

I am currently 8 1/2 months pregnant and living alone. My husband was very excited about this baby up until I was 5 months pregnant. Then he started staying out all night drinking and verbally/emotionally abusing me.

His whole personality has changed. He was a sweet, loving and caring man and now he acts like the baby and I do not exist. He was treating me so poorly, that I ended up having to move out of the marital house to ensure that I did not lose the baby. I had been to the hospital several times because of anxiety and stress.

I feel so challenged right now, as I refuse to consider divorce. My husband, who was married prior, has other two children. He has had issues with communicating with his ex and she has really tried to go out of her way to cause problems for him. So, I am not sure if this is part of the issue or not also. I know that he is worried about finances due to the economy. I am a real estate agent and he owns his own business.

I make sure to send him a text message everyday to let him know that I miss and love him. He came to my ultrasound a few weeks ago and made it seem like he was interested in repairing out relationship. The whole 1 step forward, 2 steps back.

He has pushed away all people that truly love him and give him good advice. He is drinking every night and befriending toxic and destructive characters. I am not sure if he is having an affair at this point, but I suspect. In my heart, it does not matter what he is doing now, that there is nothing communication and forgiveness can't heal with time.

I guess I am trying to figure out what more I can do to help him. I pray every night for him to listen to God and for his soul to be restored.

I am starting to think that he has a mental condition, as what man could ignore his pregnant wife for 3 months. I truly feel that he does not think I exist. Which really hurts me.

This is my first child and I feel like I have been robbed of a joyous experience. This is really hard! God has truly blessed me within my career right now, but I would gladly trade that success, for success in my marriage.