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Pregnant and separated from my husband due to alcohol

by Tracy
(Georgia)

Hi, My name is Tracy, Iam 41 and pregnant with my fourth child (second with current husband). Heres my story and would love prayer on it.
I met my husband 4 years ago, we actually went to school together so we knew each other years ago. We only dated for 4 months before I found out I was pregnant. So, we got married and everything was great for a while..he has always had a drinking problem but, when I got pregnant he said he would stop...he didnt it got worse. I had out baby June 13,2008 a beautiful healthy girl. 4 weeks after she was born he left us and went back to his exwife....well he stayed with her for four months and then decided he wanted me not her. Well we got back together November 2008. Well, during this time he promised not to drink and of course he didnt and because of it has gotten 2 dui's in 10 months...well, he was in jail for a month and he said when he got out he was getting help.....well he didnt, although I did not see him drinking I knew something was up when he got out of jail Sept 2009. Well, First of December I found liquar hidden in our basement. When I confronted him he got very mad at me and ever since then we have been fighting about his daily drinking. He said it was because of me gripping at him all the time and on Mar 13,2010 he was telling our 22 month old baby to tell me I was crazy and when he did that I took her and put her to bed for the night and when I confronted him he started cussing and threating me. I told him to leave then....but, he had already been leaving prior weekends and went to bars with his 18 year old son. Well, now Iam living at my parents for a couple of monhts. He is contacting me and acting like nothing is wrong....he wants us to go camping together and he wants me to bring our daughter to see him.....iam so confused and disapointed. I really dont know what is going on with him or what he wants or expects from me. But, I can not and will not put my daughter in that lifestyle anylonger. If he would get help with his drinking and quit and go to counsling with me maybe we could restore our marriage. But, he wont. Please pray for my family because I do want to fix it forever.
Thank You

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Pregnant and separated from my husband due to alcohol

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Apr 08, 2010
Moving forward isn't easy
by: Karen

Hi Tracy,

Being married to someone who has alcohol or any other kind of addiction is extremely tough. There is nothing you can do about their addiction. They have to want help and they have to seek that help on their own.

It puts you and your kids in a very difficult position. I admire your courage in leaving your husband because you realize it isn't a safe or healthy environment for you or your kids. And unfortunately, it will never be safe or healthy as long as your husband continues to choose alcohol over you and your kids.

Your husband wants the best of both worlds. He wants you and the kids when its convenient, but mostly he wants the alcohol. And unfortunately, he will choose the alcohol every time.

You would be doing the absolute best for yourself and your kids if you stay away from him until and unless he gets help with his drinking. And then you still need to see him turn his life around. It will take a long time for him to do all these things so you need to move on with your life without him. You can't wait around to see what he's going to do. You have no control over him so ultimately you could wait forever for him to make right choices.

Talk to your pastor or a Christian counselor to discuss your options. But mostly, stay strong and put your kids first. Someday they will thank you for it.

Blessings,

Karen

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