reconciliation after husband had an affair & is still in love with her but back home w/ me

by anonymous
(st augustine florida)

my husband who is a christian & knows the bible inside & out had an affair for 4 months & moved out. Because of conviction & his religious upbringing & belief in God, he has been home for 5 weeks & is trying. He's reading the bible & praying everyday, as welll as me. I recently (when this all started, became a true christion & have fogiven my husband. He is seeing a christian counseler & tells me he can't stop thinking about the other woman. He woke up to a song today that she gave him about them.I have been very patient & he cries every once in awhile due to the fact that he can't love me like he is supposed to. He tries but cannot give it his all. I realize through prayer that he will eventually forget about her. He claims he is trying to get right w/ God 1st & think about himself. He is negative about loving me again. We had alot of lack of communication during our 14 yrs of marriage.......3 kids also. He says he cannot give the love to me like he could give to the other woman.He considers her his soul mate. He claims he will not go back to her. She went back to her husband. I am being the Godly wife that I need to be & it's hard. How can he overcome this other woman??