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Second Marriage

I came to know the Lord in 2001. I was married. I drifted away after my first husband left me. I did many things that I now regret and have asked forgiveness. I met a man whom I Married in 2005. He was not a believer. Anyway, we both came to the Lord and thought I had the perfect marriage and one blessed by the Lord. Now I've been reading how God can not sanctify a second marriage because we are committing adultery. My husband has left the home, which was a total shock. Could this be God's way of telling me to let go of my husband. I have prayed but can not hear the Lord's voice. Is it the word of God that I should divorce my second husband?

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by: Anonymous

Read "'Til Death do Us Part" by Dr. Andrew Webb.
This will confirm what you've heard.
I disagree with Karen on this because marriage is a covenant established ONLY by God and His word- not by what we think sounds good or the rules our world makes up. Some people will bring up the verse in the old testatment which says that the Lord "allowed" Moses to conjure a divorce decree (which he did), but the Lord also stated that "from the beginning, this was not so"- meaning this was never God's intention for marriage. There are NO bible verses that mention re-marriage as a valid option unless widowed. Marriage is the second most important decision of ANYONE's life (salvation being the first) and God will honor that first marriage covenant until the day one of you dies.
You're absolutely right!- the Lord is trying to tell you something; He wants you to come back to your first love (in more than just a spiritual sense) and trust that He can restore what once was to make it better than it was.
Karen talked about how the Lord is more than able to work in a spouses' life if they are not saved. Thus, the same thing for marriages.
I will tell you, however, that a marriage is two-fold: your husband will have to make the decision of whether or not he will come back to you. And that may not happen. In which case, the word instructs that you are to remain unmarried until such time that your husband passes or repents and comes back. This is a harsh reality, but that's why the Lord needs to come first. He will help you to get through whatever the situation may become and is more than able to be that cornerstone you need if your marriage does not mend. (I dare not discredit the Lord, but freedom of choice sometimes does not work in our favor or the Lords'.)
The problem I see is that Satan likes to destroy what marriages he can. Troubled couples and non-believing spouses tend to give up easily on marriage and don't seem to understand how much responsibility goes into it.
I think you are starting to understand how complicating it can truly become.
Don't let the reality of this deter you, because it is the truth and in the end the Lord will honor you for your faithfulness.
Marriage in Christ
by: Karen

This is a very difficult question because there are so many mitigating factors that there is no absolute yes or no answer unless all those factors are clear.

However, that said, I will tell you that I don't think God is telling you to give up on your current marriage. If you and your husband were committed to following the Lord at one time, and your hearts were right, then I would have a hard time believing that God doesn't want this marriage to succeed.

Standing firm in the middle of the storm is probably one of our hardest tasks as Christians. Everywhere you look are clouds and darkness and sometimes it just feels like you're standing all alone, especially if you're not sure why all this stuff is happening.

But God can see you standing there and He's standing with you.

My best advice is to ask God to change you. Yup, even if you think your husband is completely in the wrong on this one. Ask God to show you how to be a more loving and committed wife. Ask Him to reveal those areas of your life where you need change.

Now is the time to work with God one on one to help yourself, regardless of how things turn out with and for your husband. Make your relationship with God a priority. God has this way of taking care of your problems when you put Him first. What a concept. :)

I wish you all the best,

Karen

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