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sEXLESS mARRIAGE

by melisa
(Perth)

I need advice on the topic above. i am in a sexless marriage, i would love it if my husband would make to to me, i fantersie him making love to me, i have spoken to him but he says he can not perfom sexually. yet the other day i seen a text from hnim to another woman, saying how he would like to get to know her and then have sex with her later. become friends first. Is that right? 7 years without making love? i do sometimes think of leaving him, but i love him, i am deeply hurt by what he has done, i dont know if i can forgive him. he has been so dishonest to me over these past few years, how do i trust him. Please advise.

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Jun 16, 2011

MALE ADVICE - WOMEN LISTEN UP!
by: Male Advice

Thing is... he's not in love with you. This is the ONLY reason a guy won't have sex with you. He no longer has that feeling for you, and the longer you prolong your relationship, the more hurt you will bring upon yourself. JUST GET OUT! I can't say it any clearer than that. I know the reality of that idea is painful, but would you rather spend the rest of your life never having sex or being intimate? cause that will be a whole lot more painful while you watch him be intimate with someone else. The choice is yours, but really, there is only ONE correct answer.

May 07, 2010

Sexless
by: Anonymous

When we first married we were virgins! (that happened in the 60's) Our wedding night and honeymoon were total disasters, I was so scared and wanted nothing to do with sex or my husband. When I finally simmered down it was 8 months later, Husband was very considerate of my feelings. I found out that my husband didn't appriecate or really want sex. He only was doing it because were suppose to. That went on for 10 years then we had 2 kids. Husband was forced to work nights, and me during the day that way we didn't have a baby sitter. We never saw each other except at the front door coming and going. The weekends were terrible trying to do everything at home and control 2 very lively boys. We were dead tired by Monday. Needless to say sex was out of the question and from then on till today theres been no sex. That was 30 years ago. Today I can't remember what sex was like and husband is taking meds for depression, blood pressure, sleep problems and cholestrol issues. Hes fixed with meds so sex will never happen again.

Mar 30, 2010

No two are the same
by: Karen

Hi Melisa,

Unfortunately, I can't give you a specific answer about what to do with your marriage. There is no way to know all the circumstances in your marriage and telling you to do or not do something without all the facts could prove to be more harmful than helpful.

That's why I recommended a Christian counselor. Melisa, if you can't afford a counselor, talk to your pastor at church and ask for a referral to a low cost or no cost counselor.

A counselor is going to help you look at your options and help you come to a place where you can deal with all that's happening now and will continue to happen until this is all settled.

Whether your husband changes his mind or his actions can't be the determining factor on whether you get on with your own life. If you base your decisions only on what he's doing you may never move forward.

Melisa, put all your focus on getting some help for yourself. It's the only way you'll get into a position to move on with or without your husband.

Blessings,

Karen

Mar 29, 2010

Sexless Marriage
by: Anonymous

Yes Karen there is, i have tried to speak to my husband unfortunately he is not open to being honest. i would so much appreciate if he would tell me everything regarding his affair but he wont. Is that so wrong to want to know? This is like cancer eating away at me, as much as i want to let go and let God it is just so difficult. I cant eat or sleep. The most thing i worry about right now is will he continue to live a life of lies and deciet. I know i can not force him to tell me the truth, but what do i do? cause i know he is been dishonest, how can our marriage work if he dose not want to come clean with me. we will always have this secret over our heads. i mean every time things are not okay between us he will leave home early then usual for work and then come home late. This is not how it should be but what am i to do? I can not afford to go to a counsellor right now, so i am seeking some form of help or advise. Please advise, please.

thank you

Melisa

Mar 24, 2010

It's all in the details
by: Karen

Hi Melisa,

Being in a sexless marriage for 7 years? It is obvious there is much more to your story and I would guess there are many more issues in your marriage than just this one.

Intimacy in marriage happens when all the other elements of a good marriage are in place, like good communications, openness, love, consideration, that sort of stuff.

When some of those things are lacking it can really affect the intimate part of marriage.

Melisa, I would strongly recommend that you talk to your pastor and ask for a referral for a Christian marriage counselor. You have lots to talk about and I'm sure the counselor will be able to get to the bottom of all the issues and can discuss your options with you.

Blessings,

Karen

Mar 24, 2010

sexless marriage
by: Anonymous

I'll pray for you but I think you need to start looking at the facts. He's not there for you....I know that feeling and it hurts, ALOT...but God doesn't want you unhappy with a man that doesn't care for you. I believe in miracles and I'll pray for one for you

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