Should we marry non Christians?

by Vanessa
(San Francisco)

Dear sir/mdm,

I have read through your website and I salute your advices to others who are facing problems. I hope you could help me out too.

I am believer in Christ, in my 20s and for the first time in my life I am in great fear to marry this guy that I've been dating as he's NOT a Christian. His parents are Catholics but he does not go routinely to church. My boyfriend has a good heart and has higher integrity than other Christians that I know. We both love each other at this moment but I am afraid that when we both marry and problems arise especially due to different spiritual viewpoints, love can fade. On the other hand, there is another Christian guy who's also interested in me but he's more quiet. He doesnt talk much but he cares about me. We dont communicate a lot but I know because he's a Christian our thoughts, principles and beliefs are in line and that if I marry him life would be better than if I decide to marry the Catholic guy whom I am head over heels in love with. I fear that God will be disappointed if I dont prioritize Him, and marry a non Christian to satisfy my own selfish desires. I have read that marriage with people with different beliefs are often not happy and in risk of backsliding in Christ, which is the last thing I would want to happen to myself. Am I wrong? What should I do?

I have prayed for God to give me signs of what to do and prayed for wisdom to be able to discern God's direction in my life, but am not sensitive enough to understand His ways. Kindly pray for me and advise me on what I should do. I would really appreciate another viewpoint on this issue to help me to decide my one and most important decision in this life.

Thanks a lot. Hope to hear from you soon. I am desperate for advice. God Bless!