Stay Home wife

have beem married for two years now, and i been feeling very troubled recently, I have been reading many christain books about the role of a woman, her place in the home, and that her role is a companion, a homemaker and a mother. The Man's role is a provider, a leader and protector. I battle with this, because I now feel un happy working, where as i should be at home, taking care things, and my husband. He wants me to work and have this amazing career, and I feel I can be successful, in a secular job but as I read these books and what Gods says a womans role is, my desire is to be at home. Especially when we do decide to start a family, i would want nothing better than to be 100% involved in my childrens lives, and be there for them. I worry though of leaving eveything on my husbands shoulders, especailly all the finances.I dont want him to become bitter towards me for making the decision and not considering him, he is wonderful and very supportive, but I wonder what his reaction will be if i discuss this with him, i just want to be obbediant to God, and be a loving wife and home maker, but i do worry about our finances if i do decide to stay home?
Advice will be greatly appreciated.