Teenage son driving us nuts

by Marie
(Maryland)

Rev Lee,

We've been married 25 years and we have two adopted sons. One is 19, the other 16. Our 19 year old left for college this year and our 16 year old is in high school.

It is our high school son that is driving us crazy. He's been diagnosed as ADHD and OCD. Some days I think his purpose on earth is to torture us.

We're at our wits end with him and are thinking about putting him in some kind of center for troubled teens, but the truth is that it's taking a huge toll on our marriage. My husband is the kind of person that doesn't like confrontation and would rather just ignore the problem.

When our son acts up and my husband sees me struggling with him, I think he should step in and not let our son do this to me.

My health is deteriorating from all the stress. I'm on medication for depression and anxiety, yet I still walk around like I'm half dead.

Do you have an advice for this situation?