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THE DESIRE TO GET MARRIED

by CARISSA
(OHIO)

I DESIRE TO GET MARRIED BUT WHEN I PRAY AND ASK GOD FOR A GODLY MAN AND HUSBAND FOR ME AND MY DAUGHTERS LIFE, I FEEL LIKE MAYBE THIS ISN'T GODS PURPOSE FOR MY LIFE. I REALLY WANT TO GET MARRIED AND ALL OF MY FRIENDS WHO HAVE ASKED FOR HUSBANDS GOD HAS BLESSED THEM WITH WONDERFUL HUSBANDS BUT I STILL SEEM TO BE WAITING. I ALWAYS PRAY AND ASK GOD IS IT ME AND IF MY RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM IS WHAT AND WHERE HE WANTS IT TO BE AND FOR SOME REASON I HAVEN'T BEEN FEELING MY CONNECTION TO GOD LIKE I USED TO AND I FEEL LIKE MAYBE MY RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD HAS FALTERED IN SOME WAY.

I TRULY LOVE THE LORD AND I REALLY TRY MY BEST TO KEEP HIS WORD AND COMMANDMENTS AND RAISE MY DAUGHTER ACCORDING TO HOW THE BIBLE TELLS US TO RAISE OUR CHILDREN. I REALLY BELIEVE HIM AND I PRAY FOR OTHERS AND SEE THEIR BLESSINGS COME TO PASS BUT WHEN I PRAY FOR MYSELF I DON'T GET THE SAME RESULT.

AM I MAYBE PRAYING AGAINST THE WILL OF GOD FOR MY LIFE? WHAT COULD I POSSIBLY BE DOING TO STOP OR DELAY MY BLESSINGS WITH GOD. I KNOW IT IS NO FAULT IN HIM SO IT HAS TO BE ME. HELP!

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Single Motherhood
by: Marietjie

I read all the comments and my heart goes out ti all of you. I understand the pain one feels being alone and lonely. I too am asking God to send me a Godly husband and a loving father for my precious daughter but has come to realize that this will only happen when God knows I am ready, my daughter is ready and my future husband is ready and who ever else will be involved in this relationship is ready. Up to that point it will not happen. So I agree that I need to focus on God, always, He MUST be number one. If not, he will not add any more to your life as the more He adds the less attention He will get from us. So make Him number One!!! He deserves it :) Good luck to all my single sisters and brothers and may God give you your hearts desires!!!

Seek ye first the kingdom of god
by: jasmine

Hi Carissa,
I can totally relate to your situation. I was so desperate to get married to a good christian guy right after I got saved .Even before that I wanted to get married and so when i got saved ,I thought that god would send me the guy so soon that I wont have to wait.But it didnt happen.God wanted me to love him first. I thought initially that it wasnt possible for me to NOT think of getting married but god made a way when I was willing to seek him first.I feel so happy about the way he changed me that I dont have that desperation anymore.I dont keep thinking about it all the time(which I used to do before).Instead I am so happy with Jesus.This in itself is a miracle.
Seek ye first the kingdom of god and all these things will be added unto you Mat6:33

GOD'S MIRACLES
by: Dolly

Hi Carisa. I happened to find this website, since I am going through a recent heartbreak and have a deep intense desire to be married as well.

I know that God has placed this desire in our hearts- and I agree with all the other comments posted here. Furthermore: The bible says:

With God- All things are possible.- Just think that God gave Sarah a child at the age of 90. He gave Ruth (a moabite woman) a great man- Boaz.

Why don't we both pray for one another- that we remind ourselves every second of our lives- that God still works miracles.

Dolly

Desire to get married
by: Jai

Karen, your post was a blessing to my heart. You are so right. If we just take our focus off what we desire and let our main focus be on Jesus Christ all things will come together in time. The Bible/Paul in Corinthians speaks about being single vs married . Single people are considered blessed and need to only focus on God and the relationship with him. Married people on the other hand focus on the world, family, pleasing your husband and all the above. I too want to get married but it feels as though I still have more work to do or build my relationship up with God. Whatever it is I am at easy because I know that I know he knows my desires and that I should not put it in front of him. Our God is a jealous God. Let him be your husband right now is what i was told. he knows I desire love and a Godly man and a positive figure for my sons but he also knows what it will take for me to be able to handle a blessing as such.

PS
by: Anonymous

Oh, one other thing I forgot to mention - when I pray for me and this man to get married, I pray that it will be a marriage that 1.)brings glory to God, 2.)light and encouragement to others and 3.)joy and goodness to both me and my husband.

I have been married before, and simply being married is not a blessing, as a matter of fact it can be a terrible place if it is not a GODLY marriage. I'd rather die single and celibate, than to ever be in a marriage like I was before. That is why I think it is hugely important to pray for a truly godly man and a truly godly marriage.

I also pray to be grown into a truly godly woman who will be a blessing and benefit to my husband. To bring him good not harm all the days of my life as it speaks of in Proverbs 31.

God's Will Be Done
by: Anonymous

Hi, I really appreciated your post, it was very honest and real and I can definitely relate. I am in a similar situation, except I am praying for a specific man to become my husband and I his wife.

I have four children (two still at home with me) and I desire not only a godly husband, but also a great spiritual head of the household in order that it would benefit and bless my children as well.

I think I pray with boldness and confidence and I also pray daily, the caveat is that I pray for God's Will in the matter and His Answer. So although my will is to marry this man, and I pray daily for it to pass, I also ask God's Will in the matter.

We can and should pray the desires of our heart, but also be willing to accept if God's answer to the prayer be "no" or "wait" or "not now". Our relationship with our Heavenly Father is not one in which we come only to receive, but instead to recognize what He has already given - Salvation through Jesus Christ (which is everything), and Him alone. Any other blessing God chooses to give (including a godly husband) is "extra".

Keep going to God in prayer, but be willing to pray as Jesus did in the garden of Gethsemene "But not as I will Lord, your will be done."

God Bless you!

desire to get married
by: lucky

i fell your pain, i did all that one need to do for god to bless, i have prayed, fasted, given to the needy, and saved god loyaly so. and ia m still doing that. but i still havnt recieved fron god i somethimes feel cheated.i have even put god in remembarence of his word. but nothing is happaning. but i have dicided to wait, praise and love god with all my heart and soul. for i now it shall come to pass, and i tell you that your blessings is coming verry sone, please dont give up. god bless you

God knows
by: Anonymous

I totally understand i am going through the same thing accept i have a boy, God is going to provide for us we just have to be patient, he wants to give us the best we just have to give our will to him and not do everything by our own efforts, we need to thank him for all he has done for us already continue to care and love and bless in the little ways, ask for humility and ask for our desires to be granted through the wounds of Jesus and his precious blood, nothing is refused by this we just have to trust him and thank him for what he has already planned to happen, we should not offend him by doubting that he will provide for us, he is our dad and he loves us so much we just we have to wait and recieve, congratulations on your blessings that you will recieve and may Mother Mary comfort you and your daughter at every moment of your life giving you peace warmth courage wisdom faith hope and humility, God bless you and hang in there:)

Desire to Get Married
by: Anonymous

I understand what you're writing about. I was in this situation many years ago and looking back I can see where it wasn't time for me to meet my future husband. But, I also remember getting frustrated with God and then praying that He show me His way, asking for patience until that time and requesting a decent, Christian man.

It wasn't long after that, that I met my husband and he has been wonderful, loving and caring, ever since.

I don't think it's wrong to be totally honest with God in prayer, seeking direction and guidance--especially when it comes to meeting the right person for marriage.

I will pray for you that you meet a wonderful Christian man, one you will be happy with in a marriage that will be fulfilling and joyful.

Blessings,

Seeking God's Face
by: Karen

Hi Carissa,

I completely get your situation. EVERYBODY feels like this sometimes. You are most definitely not the only one who wonders why everybody else's prayers seem to be answered but there you sit!

First, it isn't that God is deliberately withholding your future husband from you. It could very well be that your future husband isn't yet ready to be your husband for whatever reason.

It could be that God is working on placing him in your path but the occasion where it will occur hasn't happened yet.

Or it could be that God needs to work with you on some things in your life that would make being married very difficult or even impossible.

Maybe He is preparing your heart and your life for marriage by helping you to be more patient, or more open or more forgiving. There could be many things that God is seeing in your life that need to come out first.

Carissa, I'm not saying you have all these issues. Maybe you don't have any of them. Only you and God know for sure.

Secondly, you may want to think about whether your relationship with God is only about submitting your requests. Are you spending time with God in an ongoing relationship JUST to spend time with Him, or are you only submitting your requests?

There is a GREAT book called, Finding Favor with the King.

This book discusses our need to seek God's face in our relationship rather than just seeking His hand or what He can do for us.

Carissa, you do that by taking your mind off your desire to marry and instead focusing on your relationship with God and getting REALLY great at hearing God's voice.

He will lead you to think about others as you try to be a blessing everywhere you go. And He may open your heart to helping someone else who is going thru a tough time.

Carissa, God really DOES have a plan for you and your daughter. Focus your energy and time on praise, worship, and just spending time with Him.

It will put you in a much better frame of mind and you will be in a much better place to receive the man God intends for you.

Blessings,

Karen

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