The Imperfect Marriage

by Thelma Trunk
(Vancouver, Washington)

What should a woman do if her husband does not or cannot make decisions because of a disability?

God is not a God of confusion....so if your husband cannot make the decision for the family, then, of course, you are given the power of attorney to make those decisions.

However, if, because of background, he isn't capable, then the wife needs to include him in the process. She must ask his opinion, and get his input. Submission is still the key word here, but in some instances, she has to take the lead, until her husband is capable.

In the situation where there is abuse in the marriage, I, as a person, say that God would not want any woman to be in an abusive situation, especially if there are children.

These men are under bondage of some kind, and need counseling. Steps need to be taken to get counseling for him.

A family pastor could give the kind of counseling that a wife would need. Or there are also other organizations that can help.

If a woman is married to an unbeliever, the word says in 1 Corinthians 7:13-16, that if the unbelieving spouse is content to live with the believing one, then they are sanctioned, and so are the children.

She still needs to be submissive to him, for this is the will of God as unto the Lord. But if he wants to leave, then let him leave, for then you are not under bondage....or guilty, in God's sight.

If the unbelieving husband wants to live with the Christian wife, but doesn't want her to go to church, or tithe, then she is still to be submissive and obedient to the husband. The Lord will honor the wife who does this, and God can use this as a means of dealing with his heart.