Understanding Each other

by Amanda
(Monterrey, NL,, Mexico)

Rev Lee:
I have been married for 3 yrs now, my husband is 9 yrs my senior, I am an American MK (missionary kid) and he is a mexican PK (Pastor Kid), we both understand each other in service and working together for the Church, its where we met, served and will continue to serve. But when it comes to emotionally understanding each other, thats where we get into problems. Economically we had not done that great and I think that puts a big stress on our relationship, we are currently living with my in-laws, I get along wonderfully with them, but I know its not healthy for us to be there. We are having trouble transmitted to each other or expressing our love to each other. Any tips that might help, as far as the cultural difference, I have lived in Mexico for over 9 yrs, so I understand very well his culture, but he has not had as much contact with americans, that might be our issue, that i understand him and he does not understand my culture and upbringing. I am getting to a point where i am not sure what to do but i want to work this out because i am tired of always bringing up the same issues and never being able to resolve them. I don't have a problem with the lack of money, nor do i have a problem with living with his parents, or with the ministry that we both do that is pretty much 24/7 work, but i really want our love life and emotional differences to be worked out to better our relationship, which will allow us to do soo much more.
Thanks