Why did things turn out this way?

by RH
(Switz)

Sometime last year between October and early November, I decided to end an online friendship I had with someone (a male) because they propositioned me about a relationship.

I had become close friends with them over the last year or so because we were going through similar things in our lives and we used to encourage each other with scripture etc. At the time I was living in the UK and he lived in South America. We shared with each other our most intimate thoughts about what we'd like to accomplish later in our lives, our hopes and dreams.

He said that he saw me as his best friend but I never saw him as a best friend and to be honest I in spite of all that I shared with him I never saw him as a best friend because from my point of view an internet friendship was incomplete.I wasn't present to read body language etc. So in my mind I didn't know him well enough to consider him my best friend. A freidn yes but best friends no.

There were times during our conversations about relationships that he would drop these hints which came over to me as though he thought I was the one for him. Sometimes it would seem to me as though he thought that God had shown him who the "one" was and form the way he spoke at times it seemed to me. However, these I never had these feelings and I let him know that I didn't like being thought of as the one by anyone to send him the hint that I didn't like it and I didn't see things that way.


I moved to another Continental europe in September, and it was a few weeks after I moved that he propositioned me about starting a relationship (long distance) which would lead to marriage if it lasts. That really put me in an emotional tail spin. But at the same time I felt as thought it was out of the question since I did not have feelings like that for him and I felt like what he was doing was opportunistic. Since after I asked him why now he said because I had mentioned that things were going well for me on the relationship front and that if he waited until both our programs are finished, I may not be available (we are both students). He said he'd prayed about it and that he had had the feelings for over a year which I'd suspected by the hints he dropped which I rebuffed at times.

In the end I decided to stop talking to him and cut him out of my life. My question is if it was God who was directing him to do this and quote on quote showed him I was the one, why did it turn out so badly for him? Why did he end up with egg on his face because God would have known how I felt and how I was going to react. Why didn't God tell him it was a bad idea and to forget about it.