God's guidance to help you stop the abuse by: Anonymous
Dear Ann,
I am sorry to hear about what happened. I would urge you to seek professional advice from experts, like a lawyer, a counsellor or social worker. I hope that the abuse on your daughter stopped. What is worrisome is that the abuse took place in a foreign country so it is going to be hard to prosecute and to prove, that is probably why your sister's husband did it when he was far away.
Besides it is normal that you have scrupples to get him jailed because he is family. If you fear that your sister and her daughters will be in a difficult financial situation, maybe you or another family members can take them in or social services can help them.
But as a victim of conjugal abuse myself who just got out of the situation, I am afraid that your sister's husband is abusive as well towards your sister and/or his own children. Abuse is not only physical or sexual and can be mental, the worse kind.
Your sister's husband needs help and I will pray that God will make him realize that He is sick and that he will seek treatment to change his ways.
But in the meantime, please talk to your sister and see if she is suffering from her husband's attitude and tell her that you or the family will be there for her. This may help solve the dilemma that you are facing, like Solomon judgment, torn between your blood family (your sister) and your own kin (your daughter).
Sincerely,
Helene in NY.
My prayers by: Anonymous
I went through a similar situation as a child and no charges were ever pressed, all it took was the family knowing and it ended everything. It has taken years to come to terms with it and to forgive. The only thing I wish I had was a counselor (maybe one from the church). So that is the only thing I can reccomend. Don't worry about him getting away with it. We will all be judged one day and His judgement is the most severe.
Wisdom and direction by: Anonymous
There are two good things you can do with this maatter. First of all, pray for God's guidance and help and secondly, seek a good lawyer and see what your options are.
This matter happened in my family and it caused disruption and anger and a host of other problems but in the long run, it turned out alright because my sister sought and found good legal help.
I would be careful of what you say to the relatives, etc. Again a lawyer's advice can be most helpful in this matter...
